A kajira in Complete Mastery
May write it as you wish. Explain your thoughts and reasoning’s within.
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okay. These are my personal view on a kajira in complete Mastery.
Kajira.
A female submissive who has an innate need to be under the Mastery of a Man. A need to serve another person, give complete control of our selves, our lives into that persons hands. Please note this is a NEED. Something we cannot control. We can run from it, hide it, bury it inside us for as long as we wish; but at the end of the day it is inside us. A need that in order to be truly happy, we have to recognise and accept. But that isn’t enough. A kajira cannot fulfil this need without a Man, a Master.
I posted a while ago a quote from another Gorean website, which concluded with the statement that Mastery, not slavery was the ultimate gift. I believe this. A kajira is just an unfulfilled woman, a woman who is not 100% happy, fulfilled and complete without being owned. A Master does not need a kajira in order to live his life and be happy. He takes the Gorean philosophy and principles and adapts them to his life. He lives to his own personal code, his own ethics. He has honour, integrity, morals and a personal strength that can stretch out beyond himself in order to encompass others and help them in their lives, in their times of trouble. A master does not NEED a kajira to complete him.
Mastery – not slavery is a gift. It is a gift given to a woman a Master chooses, whom he sees as being able to fulfil his own personal views on what a kajira should be. A woman he believes he can mould, adapt and shape. A woman he sees as being able to compliment him and bring pleasure into his life. That woman is not needed though for him to be fulfilled; she is only a pleasant addition that brings him joy and happiness. A piece of property.
That sort of defines those roles… But not what complete Mastery is. This is where what my views are on the subject, I feel will be a little controversial, possibly harsh. But they are my views and that is what I have been told to write.
For a kajira to be in complete Mastery – complete control. That cannot happen when living apart. To live apart and be Master and kajira puts a huge internal pressure on the kajira, and I suppose in some respects the Master as well. If he gives a command, how does he know we obey? Yes, trust is there and it must always be there, but at the end of the day a kajira is obeying what she is told because she wants to, not because she is made to. When tough commands are given – or commands we don’t wish to obey, that is when the pressure starts. When miles separate a kajira from her Master there is no quick comeback. There is not person stood over you ensuring you obey, there is not Man there watching you, encouraging you, holding you when you need it afterwards. You are stuck on your own. That place where everything is dark and lonely until you are able to speak again. Even then, internet and telephones only go so far. You cannot feel their hands in your hair, their arms around you; you cannot nestle at their feet and relax.
Complete Mastery involves living as M/s 24/7/365. Even then it will take years to shed all the layers we have built up to cope in our lives without a Master. The layers out of necessity we have constructed to protect ourselves in our daily lives. Yes, you can live as kajira and hold a job, a career, nothing is there stopping you apart from a Master’s personal view and directive. But still, to be able to function outside of a home environment we need to be able to protect ourselves from abuse. You cannot do this and be kajira without knowing all the boundaries of you relationship dynamic. What is acceptable, what is not; when you can speak up, when you cannot; when you need to ask permission before acting and when you don’t need to.. a myriad of minor details that cannot be ingrained into you consciousness without being in a 24/7 situation.
To be in complete Mastery is not a quick or easy process. Someone I know refers to it as IE – Internal Enslavement. Others refer to it as consensual non-consent. Same difference to me, you consent to give up personal consent, you consent to be encouraged to have bonds of enslavement placed in your psyche. To me, complete Mastery is when I could not contemplate being without my Master, when I get to that point where I can anticipate his needs and act with only him in my mind. When everything I do is for him and him alone. When discipline becomes more of a maintenance issue to reinforce bonds rather than because rules or commands have been broken. When life apart from our Masters is heart rending. Complete Mastery is when after years of being in that dynamic your Master knows with just your carriage, expressions and sounds how you feel. When a kajira’s limits cease to exist. Hmm. I suppose I need to explain that one.
We all have limits within our lives. Pain thresholds, which alter dependant on if it is, play which is causing pain, punishment, or illness. Limits on what we find acceptable behaviour or not. Limits of what we find degrading to the point of unbearable. Limits of verbal abuse we can take before we snap. Noise levels, brightness levels.. ad infinitum. Limits do not just come in the form of play. *grins* although play can be very, very fun…. Mmmmm.
Anyone who says they have NO limits without qualifying that statement is lying. However, like rayne on subguide I do believe that it is possible to be a no-limit slave. I like her reasoning there; it echoes some of my own thoughts.
To be no-limits
1. You have to be with the right Master – the One – your Love Master
2. You must have total and unconditional trust between Master and kajira
3. I strongly believe you have to have progressed into complete Mastery
4. You need to define what no-limits is!
As rayne put quite succinctly, just because she classes herself as no limits, doesn’t mean her Master doesn’t have limits. Also, it means that her Master understands her and knows her to such a depth that he knows before she does that he is close to pushing her too far beyond a boundary. He can judge her reactions and behaviour and choose whether to alter what he is doing or not. She trusts him with her life and it is that power he holds over her.
Only a fool would value a possession that low as to damage it beyond repair.
Hence – no limits.
I seem to have digressed far off course here, but it seemed to fit as I was typing. To be in complete Mastery just now seems to me to be this golden rainbow, something of dreams, of hopes and desires. How possible it is I honestly don’t know. I hope it is possible, the need burning inside me wants it badly. All I do know for certain is that it is not my choice, it is my Master’s.
These photos force to remember a movie I glanced recently named Silip, in which a village full of sex-crazed people kill each other for well nothing other than sex. The continuous power struggle between the over-powering males and the feebler females is a subject of pertinent questioning in almost all feminine art. Especially the one on the right. All I can hear is rape, rape, rape in my mind. What forces the man to rape? Is it that he is incapable of finding love or incapable of controlling himself?
